One early morning, as I was driving to work with the dim glow of dawn barely breaking through, I found solace in the radio channel that had become my quiet companion for many mornings like this one. The world outside was still, yet in my mind, memories stirred as a familiar song filled the car. It was that song—the one that perfectly encapsulated a feeling I’ve come to know well. "When I needed you most." ( see song by Randy vanWarmer)
Hearing those words, I was flooded with memories of friendships, both joyful and bittersweet. I thought of the friends who had filled my life with laughter and celebration, the ones who made the good times feel complete. Yet, I also remembered how many of them seemed to vanish when life’s storms rolled in, leaving silence where I once expected support.
But through those reflections, I felt an immense gratitude for those rare souls who have remained by my side, no matter the season. In the moments when life unraveled, when laughter gave way to tears, they were there—steadfast and unshaken. They didn't have to be asked; they just showed up. These were the friends who didn’t need explanations or excuses, who knew the weight of silence and carried it with me.
Many people go through this dual experience—finding out who stands beside them when the road is rough, and who disappears. At first, it can feel like a harsh revelation. But over time, I've come to see it as a necessary filter. Life, in its quiet way, sorts the weeds from the flowers, revealing who truly deserves a place in our hearts and who was only passing through.
For all of us, these experiences serve as a reminder to cherish the real relationships we have. Appreciate those who are there in both sun and storm, who remain close through the highs and lows. And just as importantly, let’s aim to be that kind of person ourselves—to show up not only in times of joy but also when the quiet ache of loneliness would make any friendly presence feel like a blessing.
As the song played on, I thought of these words: “When I needed you most.” They echo a truth that many of us feel deeply. Let them be a reminder to treasure those who stay and release those who don’t. True friends are rare, but they’re worth every bit of gratitude and love we have to give. If you need to find out more on how you can achieve this objective, check out more of our work at drjg.co.nz or YouTube.
- Dr Jessica
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